Fighting Fair & Loving Better: How the Gottman Method Can Help Your Relationship Thrive
Fighting Fair & Loving Better: How the Gottman Method Can Help Your Relationship Thrive
Let’s be real—relationships can be hard. Even the strongest couples hit bumps in the road, whether it's the same argument playing on repeat, feeling more like roommates than romantic partners, or just missing that spark you once had. If any of that sounds familiar, couples counselling might be exactly what you need—and the Gottman Method is one of the most trusted ways to get back on track.
So, what is the Gottman Method?
Created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman (a real-life couple themselves!), this method is based on over 40 years of research into what makes love last. It’s not just theory—it’s science-backed, practical, and surprisingly down-to-earth.
The Gottman Method helps couples strengthen their friendship, manage conflict in healthier ways, and build a deeper sense of shared purpose. It’s not about figuring out who’s right or wrong—it’s about learning how to really understand each other and feel like you’re on the same team again.
Why it works (and why I love using it)
Here’s why the Gottman Method is a game-changer:
It gives you real tools—not just “talk it out,” but how to talk in a way that actually helps.
It focuses on building connection, not just fixing problems.
It’s based on the Sound Relationship House—a cool name for a solid foundation made of trust, appreciation, and turning toward each other instead of away.
It makes space for both big emotions and everyday moments, because both matter.
Quick tips for couples feeling stuck
If things feel off between you and your partner, try these bite-sized Gottman-inspired strategies:
💬 Use a soft start-up: Start conversations with curiosity instead of criticism. Think “I feel…” not “You never…”
💖 Notice the small stuff: Respond to your partner’s little bids for connection—whether it’s a sigh, a joke, or a random “look at this meme.”
🕰️ Create rituals: Shared coffee in the morning? Friday pizza night? These small things build big connection over time.
🎯 Focus on what’s working: Say thank you, offer compliments, and name what you appreciate. Everyone wants to feel seen.
🚨 Don’t wait for a crisis: Couples counselling isn’t just for when things fall apart—it’s for building something even better.
Let’s get your relationship back in sync
If you’re ready to turn things around (or simply want to feel more connected), I’m here to help. I offer a warm, supportive space for couples to explore what’s really going on and learn tools to grow together—not apart.
Curious? Book a free consultation here and let’s chat about how we can strengthen your relationship—one conversation at a time.
